Mirror Mirror On The Wall
Today's Soul Stretch, while easy in concept, can be challenging in practice. It requires you to get vulnerable, possibly shed some tears, and get radical in your honesty. Get ready to shift your beliefs, and love the beautiful amazing YOU, that you are.
Allow me to introduce to you: Mirror Work. If you're not familiar with this type of Soul Stretch, I must warn you...it will cause massive shifts in your life if done consistently! I have done variations of MW with many of my clients who experience depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, disordered eating, and a myriad of other disorders. The following work has been adopted and modified from Lisa Nichols work.
I've grown up in front of a mirror. If it wasn't a ballet mirror, it was a doing-my-hair kind of mirror (I've been playing out my XX chromosomal imprint for a while now). But, for as long as I can remember, the voice I used to talk to myself in the mirror has been unkind. That was until a few years ago. I woke up to the negative projections my ego was yelling to my reflection. I then became what I affectionately refer to as, a "thought watcher". No, not in the Orwellian, 1984, sense. More in the Zen Buddhist sense.
Raise your hand if you tend to be your own worst bully.
Do you Siskel and Ebert yourself and two-thumbs-down everything about your body and your personality? Do you even notice that you're doing it? Do you feel the visceral response in your body when you verbally bash it?
There is only one of you on the planet. You are here to do something powerful and positive. This is your birthright and your mission. Now, Soul Stretcher, how are you going to do that if you're busy carting around a steamer trunk of self-loathing, self-doubt, and self-rejection?
Quick question...Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself in those dark mirror moments? Would you tell them that they're worthless, unloveable, unattractive, or unworthy? Would you encourage them to drag the same negativity filled steamer trunk though life that you do? No. Probably not. Becuase you love them, and wouldn't want to hurt them. So why is it ok to abandon yourself, beat yourself up, and make your life unenjoyable?
Bottom line - it's not ok. You've spent far too much time under-celebrating your assets.
Your Soul Stretch this week is to start celebrating what is amazing and right about you!
Are you ready?
Before you put on your mask on at the beginning of your day, stand in the mirror first thing in the morning.
Start by saying your own name as you look into your eyes, followed with the below statements.
" [Insert your name here], I am proud of you for...." (choose 5 things that you are proud of yourself for. It can be as small as getting out of bed this morning!)
"[Insert your name here], I forgive you for..." (Choose 5 things that you can start to forgive yourself for. It could even be for trying to talk yourself out of this "ridiculous" exercise, or I forgive you for staying in that soul-sucking job.)
"[Insert your name here], I commit to you that... " (Choose 5 things that you can commit to yourself today, ie: "I commit that I'll refrain from people pleasing and I'll put me before anyone else today.)
Taking inspired, actionable steps will help you get out of your head. You will become an active participant in changing your thinking and your behavior, thusly, changing your life. This is you unpacking that steamer trunk of negativity and filling it back up with abundance and self-love!!
If you've recently experienced a breakup, a job loss, a separation, a divorce, or any other sort of redirection in your life, I highly recommend doing this two times a day. Perhaps even bump up your statements from 5 to 7 items.
Make you your greatest romance. Choose to step into radical self-acceptance and honor that which you are and have been given.
After one month of stretching your soul in front of the mirror, note how your feelings about yourself shift. Notice if you have more tolerance and patience in others. Notice how people approach you or treat you differently. Notice the subtle or major shifts that transpire in your mindful awareness.
Happy Soul Stretching!